Monday, December 22, 2008

An Open Letter to Rick Warren

Rev Warren,

My parents too where against gay marriage till they realized that they had a gay son...that nobody made him this way...that he couldn't change. Then suddenly gay marriage no longer seemed like the end of society...but as an opportunity for their son to not have to spend the rest of his life alone.

As they age, my religious parents have changed their minds about gay marriage. Respectfully Mr Warren...your denomonation of Christianity does not have a philosophical or theological monopoly on what the Bible says. I go to a is not Unitarian...but it is a Christian church preaching that the only salvation is through Christ and my pastor would have gladly married me.

But you took that right away from him when you supported Prop 8; and you caused my parents sadness and stress when they saw people like you "picking" on their flesh and blood.

Their is a human face to gay marriage Mr. Warren. Please; if you will not reconsider your position at least agree to a debate on the issue against one of your peers who sees things differently.

Thank you

Tuesday, December 16, 2008

The "what's next polygamy" argument

I am so tired of gay marriage being equated to polygamous marriage.

Polygamy has been around since the beginning of the institution of marriage. Only recently outlawed. Polygamy is a lifestyle. It is not a sexual orientation

Homosexuality is not a lifestyle. I was gay before I ever had sex. I can choose to be polygamous or monogamous. But I cannot change being gay.

ENOUGH. These arguments piss me off. I hate the whole slippery slope argument.

Pedophilia - a mental illness. A child cannot give consent. Also...pedophiles are either gay or straight or bisexual. Again...pedophilia is a subset of the three main sexual orientations.

Beastiality - A dog cannot give consent to marry. You are not born liking different species. It is a lifestyle choice...again caused by mental illness. If you have sex with a dog and it enjoys it...more power to you. But beastiality people will never ask to get married unless their animals become citizens with voting rights who pay taxes.

Enough! I am so sick of these conservative arguments. Gay marriage is about gay people wanting to assimilate into straight culture. We have come a long way from the Stonewall riots when we where radicals riding the wave of the sexual revolution. Todays gay activist does not want to redefine wants to conform.

Let us fucking conform allready.

Friday, December 12, 2008

Why must the feminine men love me? lol

As homosexuality becomes more and more seems a negative side to it is that we gays are now emulating heterosexual behavior more than ever.

True, I want to get married; but I do not want to be the "man" and marry a gay male "woman."

It's true queens have been the backbone of the gay community. I appreciate them. I adore them. But I prefer my men masculine. Not just aesthetically but I find that gay men make horrible women. They take all the negatives and none of the positives of femininity. The penis is not that important to me. If i could stomach femininity I'd much rather marry or date my female friends. At least I'd have the tenderness and loyalty and intellect to go along side the mood swings and manipulative behavior.

I know that's pretty sexist to say. And maybe I shouldn't have gone "there." But I have always been attracted to the masculine. Not saying that masculinity is perfect. Masculinity can be stubborn, violent, angry, full of hate. But it is unfortunately what I am attracted to.

And unfortunately not being "fierce." Not being short, not being twiggy, (though i am quite smooth lol) my beard, my strong chest (tooting my own horn) my is not what the mainstream "butch" wants. The mainstream butch wants a mainstream femme. And the queens seem to like me.

Is there anyone out there who doesn't conform to hetero-sexist ideas of what a gay couple should be?

I do not want to support a twink and court her and deal with her mood swings and dramatic behavior. Noooo thank you. I just want an equal. Someone for who life is not a big joke. Or one year long white party. Where's my guy? Is he out there somewhere?

Hope so...been too long.

Thursday, December 11, 2008

John Stewart is my Hero

Hell yeah John!!

Wednesday, December 10, 2008

How has your life made a difference in someone elses?

During these trying times; this holiday season; I'd like to ask all I know and everyone you know etc etc to tell each other how our lives, and your life have impacted others.

It's very easy this time of year to get lost in the commercialism of Christmas, or to feel very depressed. I think the best gift that we can all give is let each other know how we have impacted each others lives for the positive. So that we all know that we are all here for a purpose. That life has meaning.

Meaning is subjective. The idea that life is meaningless is just as absurd as the idea that life is meaningful. But since we live, we love, we experience life like our own personal novel. Still being written. It is better to live life as if it has profound meeting than to live life as if it has none. We create our reality. Why choose suffering and the delaying of pleasure when instead you could choose to live life and enjoy it. Enjoy those around you. And make the most out of your life.

I've been reading a lot about chemical reactions in the brain. It depressed me. That my happiness and love could just be weird chemical reactions in the brain. That human beings evolved inteligentlly by accident. I guess I was going through some existential angst. But if my happiness and love are just chemical reactions in my brain then so are feelings of doubt, depression, sadness or hate. I now understand what people mean when they say the cliche: 'life is what you make it.' Indeed.

Whether we are an accident or not nobody can know for sure. Reality is as we perceive it. And I perceive myself to think and feel and love...i perceive myself to have meaning and have a purpose. So therefore it is so.

I am thankful for the chemical reactions in the brain that make me feel compassion, empathy, love, happiness, pleasure. Life is short and I will spend my life pursuing those feelings and growing as a person.

That's my holiday wish this year for myself and for all of you. Much love.

Happy holidays

Wednesday, December 3, 2008

The Bush Legacy Tour Bus

What will history have to say about the Bush legacy? Well if Karl Rove gets his way history will look back fondly on the current president. The Bush administration is currently going a legacy project to try and give a positive spin on the Bush legacy.

Lucky for us we live in the age of the "internets." And one non profit group is doing it's part to make sure we never repeat the mistakes of the past.

It's the Bush Legacy Tour. An exhibit on wheels that aims to insure that the real Bush Legacy is not forgotten and hopefully never repeated.

If you would like the bus to stop in your town you can write them at their website.